Do they really follow their own lies?

They have a well constructed fantasy world where they have specific scripts for different situations that they run into.. if the subject is cheating, they just insert who-ever's name is relavant in the conversation,,,,, if the subject is about a promise they're not keeping, they have several scripts they go to and just switch out what-ever you're angry at at the time..  
It's all a game for them and we don't know the rules until we can figure them out,, and then the narc doesn't want to play anymore..

WAITING

WAITING
It's what you do when you're with a narc..

Deciding to believe

Suggestion:
Decide to believe that he's with someone else,, and Decide to believe that he will never be available for you except for the crumbs..
Decide to believe that anyone else he's with is getting a big crumb right now too because he'll do to her what he's done to you,, all he has are crumbs.. ouch.. damn that's a lonely way to live but they don't know how to live any other way,, their lack of empathy limits their ability to share love,, they can't do it,, ,, ,,they can share intense energy but I'll never mistake that energy for love again cuz love is abundant and all they have are crumbs..

Oops, I did it again..

OK, you found out that being gullible to a liar is painful... 
I ask my Higher Power for the strength to stop believing a liar. 
He's proven he's a liar  
........how come I keep believing him? 
It took me years to figure out how to get out from under being a "good person" and finally just flat out stopped listening to him,,,,,,,,,, all of a sudden the world got a lot more fair.. Thanks for sharing your pain and frustration.. 
I encourage you to stop believing the liar.. 
Once we stop relying on the narc to be honest and responsible, things shift for us,, then we can see our choices with better clarity.

Old Slogans

• I am really a very persuasive person, I can convince myself of anything..
• The talents you have are God's gift to you; what you do with those talents is your gift to God..
• I don't have to get emotional about my feelings..
• A closed mouth gathers no foot..
• Look for the similarities in people, not the differences..
• Your best thinking got you here..
• Humility is that which reduces you to your proper size without degrading you..
• Advice is least heeded when most needed..
• Never compare your insides with someone else's outside..
• If you suffer from low self-esteem, do estimable things..
• Self-centeredness is a casualty of spiritual growth..
• Find humility before it finds you..
• Expectations are premeditated resentments..
• My old outlook used to be "look out"..
• Whoever seeks revenge should build two coffins..
• The most important part of enlightenment is to "lighten up"..
• It's ok to look back in the past, just don't stare at it..
• We never obsess about anything good..
• I don't have to attend every argument that I'm invited to..
• Comparisons are caustic..
• Hate binds you to the thing you hate the most..
• Anyone can hate, it costs to love..
• Spirituality isn't leaving point A to get to point B,,
  it's leaving point A..
• The difference between trust and faith,, The guy at the circus going across the high wire in a wheelbarrow has faith he will get across,, Trust is getting in the wheelbarrow..
• When the horse dies, dismount..