DEALING WITH THE RESENTMENTS

I think the hardest part of detoxifying from the abuse is when we need to look at the rage and resentments we end up creating in ourselves because of the abuse.... Anger during this time is totally normal and healthy,, but rage is dead ended anger,, anger that never got resolution so it built to rage and resentment..
It ends up being a very heavy weight to carry around.. it turns into things like jealousy and revenge...
As far as I know, the only way to get rid of that awful feeling is to do a big look at ourselves and learn how to name our participation..
The narc lied and lied and lied,, and at first, it hurt our vulnerability, we became shameful that we got lead into a trap of deception which complicates our ability to see ourselves without judgement..
When we can name our gullibility to the lies and deal with the (natural) anger that happens when being tricked, we learn to let go and move on from being enmeshed with an abuser..
You are love-able and you have a right to happiness and love without pain..
Repeat after me:  

"I am love-able and have a right to love and happiness."