Group Stuff

I tend to put the narc in a non-personal place because nothing they do is actually a personal attack, it's a defensive move they believe will protect them from pain and abandonment.. It's skewed thinking from a disordered brain and it doesn't matter who's in front of them, they'll always do the same scripts,, and therefor, it's never a personal situation even if it feels that way.. and to me, that's the hardest thing for folks to recognize because being wrapped up in a narc's game feels personal..
I personally think it's important for people to find their own way through their own crap.. I do believe that a large number of people in this group will stay with the narcissist and they have a million reasons to stay, all valid.. (how do we support them?)
I think a support group is here to share our stories and to teach us to listen to others.. So many of us talk about finally finding a place where others understand us, but I think as a support group, we miss supporting everyone because so many of us come in and are sooo thrilled to finally have a place where we can trash the crap we've suffered through, we forget to listen..
I think it's key to listen to folks, not demand that they join our bash game in revenge..
my 2 cents..