Climate of FEAR

"They" don't have to touch us to create what's called a "climate of fear".. It can be done by subtle demeaning and dismissive comments at strategic times.. It can be done through their comments of aggression that always come with plausible deniability..
It comes from always being confused and intimidated and it's my observation that the stronger the target is, the harder it is for us to recognize until it's too late because we think we can handle anything, which is exactly what a narc loves=some challenge..
"D" was so good at doing dishonest things behind my back, that when friends commented on something, I'd have no idea what they were talking about because "D"s abuse included the slow and strategic targeting of my friends so they'd complain but I'd never see what they were saying because it didn't match what I was seeing and hearing from him, so I was left caught between people I loved and ended up staying with him cuz I didn't have the resources or understanding of what was happening.. all part of the climate of fear for me..
The more educated we are about the different behaviors that they do, the more we can see that fear is created through many different avenues.. And few people understand the detoxification process that we have to go through to get the narc out of our systems..