LETTING GO of ATTACK DOGS WHO SMILE

I believe it's important NOT to tell a narc or flying monkey or trained attack dogs what I'm doing.. for me; to practice grey rocking and to not try to control them or what's happening ,, lol  ,, as if they respected my boundaries before (hahahaha ouch), ,, ,, it never worked before no matter how honest and sincere I was, ,, ,, no matter how I explained my boundaries during pain and anger.

I now know that it's impossible to teach [your] abuser about empathy..
And it's simple protection to just withdraw..
It won't add to their game and it's not part of their rules of abuse..
For me, it's hard work to not share stuff.. It takes a lot of practice to just keep my lips closed,, lol.. I've been duped into trusting the wrong people and staying private is my first step to changing things back to a happy me...