Second Guessing

When they have certain patterns in their scripts, it's sometimes easier to second guess the narc, but I think it's a mistake to think we can anticipate much more than moods in certain situations (example,he always got melancholy when pretty women were around, silent treatment if I mentioned it, etc),, Both my mom and ex are narcs and something that used to frustrate the crap outta me was that they'd catch on to changes that I'd make so fast and they'd switch directions in a second..
When I recognized that a narc literally spends their whole life practicing scripts and manipulations on every relationship they pass through, I just quit trying to second guess what he was gonna do, went gray rock and after a couple mistakes, things got better instead of worse for the first time in years..
BTW, "second guessing" is one of the symptoms of narc abuse,, if you're always having to second guess what's coming next, it's abusive..