Dreams vs Cravings

Abuse demands that we obsess over the abuser and his/her behavior.. Personally, I believe that the amount of craving or obsession we still have for the abuser during and after a breakup, is a measure of how much loss we really feel..
When I take the time to list out what, exactly it is that I miss,, it's the dreams and potential futures and the beginnings of something greater to come.. and all measurable by that craving of wanting "it" back..